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14 Of Life’s Toughest Moments That Time Will Always Cure.
 
“You’ll feel better in the morning.”

We’ve all heard the statement and we most likely have been on the other end of it at least once. As we lie crying or hurting, we’re always reassured that everything will be better in the light of morning. Tomorrow will be a new day and the pain will be less. We take the advice with a grain of salt, yet somehow things always do seem a little better in the morning.

But why is that? Does the sun dry up all our pain and the night winds sweep away our troubles? Do the stars soak up our tears and relieve our soul?

While we may not believe in universal powers or mystical properties of a full moon, we should believe in the power of time, because time is the most powerful force there is.

It heals the soul the same way a scab forms and slowly treats an open sore, every day getting better until there is nothing left but a small scar. It may take days, months or years, but time most definitely alleviates and closes some of our deepest wounds.

So when life knocks the wind out of you and kicks you to the curb, which it will, there are certain things that help you get back up — and time will always be one of them. Because everything looks different after days have passed. Situations are reevaluated, burdens are lighter and the nauseating sting of regret subsides.

Time is that therapy session you need, the hug of your mother and the embrace of a lover. It’s the slow and steady morphine drip that gently fades away all your worries and troubles until you forget what you were so upset about to begin with.

So if you’re in pain, take a moment to see if your worries are something that can be cured with time and if they can then there’s no reason to worry, because time heals all.

An Aching Heart

Nothing heals a broken heart better than time. From the moments you can’t catch your breath to the silent pain that aches within your soul, time slowly alleviates all the symptoms of a heart that’s been torn in half.

A Bad Haircut

There are few things immediately worse than a bad haircut. For a few painful hours, it feels like you will be stuck with a bob for the rest of your life. But we’ve all learned from experience that time most definitely heals a few inches too short.

A Case Of Homesickness

The pain of missing home is a hard one to bear. However, the longer you spend in your new surroundings, the more comfortable and less lonely you become. Homesickness is an inevitable side effect of leaving your comfort zone and the more time you spend away, the less time you spend thinking of home.

A Harsh Betrayal

The sting of betrayal may never be forgotten, but the pain most definitely will subside. You may never forget what they did to you, but you will be able to move on.

An Awkward Moment

Those terrible moments that make you cringe when memories are replayed in your mind over and over only fade with time. It takes a good amount of time to turn a sad, embarrassing or awkward moment into a funny story.

A Bad Case Of Food Poisoning


It may seem like you’ll never see outside the chrome bowl, but you will, just let it pass. When it comes to being sick, we’ve learned that “this too shall pass” and you will feel normal again.

A Horrible Hangover

Hangovers are worse than real illness because there are no cures. There are remedies and wives tales, but no antibiotics. Time is the only medicine you have and the longer it works its way through your system, the better you will feel.

A Lost Way

Those moments when you’re lost feel like they’ll last forever. It’s the gut-wrenching feeling that you will be walking around lost for the rest of your life. But you will always find your way back. Time will do that, it will bring you where you need to go.

A Harsh Rumor

Bad words are never fun and a rumor always feels like it will surround your life for the rest of your days. You will forever be known by that rumor, and nothing else. However, we’ve all learned that rumors pass and new ones replace the old as quickly as people start to forget what they were talking about to begin with.

A Fight With Your Best Friend


To fight with a friend is worse than a lover because there is no make-up sex. But there is making up, and it will happen. The minutes, hours and days after a bad fight with someone you love always feel like the end of the world, and most likely, the end of the friendship. But days weaken the heightened emotions and the reserved love you have for one another will outweigh the fight.

A Bad Feeling


Those horrible feelings we get when we’re alone, depressed or just sad are usually just a passing evil. Only the hours and days will help you get past them.

A Zit


No, you will not have it forever.

A Heavy Burden Of Guilt

Whatever you did, you will eventually forgive yourself. This will not weigh on you forever and you will be able to move on without wanting to kill yourself with every step.

A Lost Job

You won’t be unemployed forever. You will find another job and it will be for the best. Everything happens for a reason and time has a way of proving that again and again.

A Death

The grief will pass even if the sadness stays. The dark pit of hollowed sadness will not consume you for the rest of your life. Over time you will learn to live without that person and become numb to his or her absence. Though the pain may always be there, you will learn to live with it valiantly.
The little boys who enter beauty pageants against girls and WIN.
Jude and Jake Collins line up against girls on the competition catwalks

 
 
Brothers Jude and Jake are nine and five. They ride bikes, go skateboarding, run with their dad, play football and come home covered in mud. But they have another hobby too, one that’s currently shared by barely a dozen other boys in Britain. Jude and Jake enter beauty pageants.

They usually win too. At home the shelves are stacked with heavy crowns covered in fake jewels, a trophy for Mr Personality and sashes for Mr Photogenic and Ultimate World Supreme King.

In just one year they’ve won 20 crowns, four trophies and 65 sashes. Parents Sara and Graham Collins-Godden have to put them away in boxes to make space in their three-bedroom home in Shoreham-by-Sea, West Sussex.

Sara, 44, a former child performer and model who works in a community centre, says the secret of the boys’ success is their natural charm.
 
 
 “They both genuinely love being on the stage strutting their stuff with everyone cheering and clapping,” she says.

“A lot of parents think it’s a bad thing. It might turn their son gay or whatever. But if being exposed to pageants or drama or dance or anything makes them into a fulfilled, happy adult, that’s fantastic. Whether they’re straight, gay, bisexual, whatever, I couldn’t care less as long as they’re happy.”

Jude says most of his school friends were “psyched” – excited –when he told them about the pageants, though a few still think it’s too girly.

The brothers currently compete in the same events as girls. There are just five mainstream pageants that admit boys and only five to 10 currently enter.

For the moment boys-only events don’t exist – but mum Sara is launching her own in May.


 
“Unlike the girls, it’s not all about lip-gloss and fake lashes. she says. “Boys in a pageant don’t generally wear make-up or have false hairpieces, spray-tans or anything. They generally have a bit of powder and mascara to make them look less washed-out under bright lights.

“It’s their eyes and smiles that win it for them. But they could be painting their fingernails for all I care. As long as they’re happy.”

The boys wear mini-tuxedos with waistcoats and bow-ties in the formal wear round and for fancy dress Jake has a pirate outfit and Jude is St George. Both know how to sashay down the stage before stopping for a pose. Sara says: “They don’t have any routines. They get out there and wing it. They blow kisses and wink. But it’s all down to them. Jake, in particular, absolutely loves it. He’s such a diva and he’s only five years old!”
 
 
Why you should follow your heart and not head.
 
 
Did you know that the subconscious part of your brain is 30,000 times more powerful than the conscious one?

Let’s briefly review about how the brain works. The brain can be divided into three parts: the reptilian brain, the limbic brain and the cortex brain.

The reptilian brain is the part of the brain responsible for our survival. It is the part of the brain that makes us fall asleep when our body needs rest. It’s responsible for making us breathe without having to actively think about it.

In other words, the reptilian brain is responsible for all of those functions that we do not take care of in a conscious way. It could be said that the reptilian brain’s main mission is to make stay us alive as long as possible.

The limbic brain is probably the more complicated part of our brain. This part of our brains is responsible for our successes and failures; the limbic brain also governs our emotions. It makes us take the left path instead of the right when we arrive at a crossroad.

The limbic brain allows us to make decisions simply because we have a good gut feeling. It is the part of the brain responsible of our attitudes, our way of being and facing life.

Next, we find the cortex brain. As its name suggests, this is the part of the brain made by the cerebral cortex; it is responsible for conscious thoughts. It allows us to retain memories, dates and knowledge.

The cortex brain is our best ally during final exams; it helps us succeed in our years of schooling. We spend our youth developing this part of the brain, as we try to solve problems analytically, analyzing the pros and cons of each situation in order to come to a conclusion.

Now that you’re somewhat familiar with the brain, you should also know that we learn 95 percent of the things we know in the first three years of lives and 98 percent by age 12. From the age of 12 on, 25,000 neurons die daily.

All this information is great, but why am I giving you a lesson on the brain, you ask?

As I said before, the limbic part of the brain is the one that makes people succeed or fail in life. This brain is in charge of our attitudes. Cultivating and developing attitudes is the key to success in anything.

You can be a genius in mathematics, finance, physics, whatever. However, if people don’t like you, or if you are afraid of challenges or only focus on the negative, you will fail in almost everything you do.

Intuition is a part of our minds we cannot control and that tells us exactly what is going to happen next. It is the voice in our head that tells us when we have to sell or buy stock. It tells us when we are in front of a good deal, or when we are with the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with.

It is impossible to analyze in detail all situations. Life is unpredictable and anything can happen. The lesson here is to stop overthinking and to just let things happen. Listen to your instincts.

Listen to your heart, not to your head — although, it would be more correct to say listen to your limbic brain, not to your cortex brain.

As Steve Jobs once said, “Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
Feline fans flock to London's first cat cafe.
 
Would you like some kitten with your coffee?
 
Feline company is exactly what one of London's newest cafes is offering - and stressed-out city-dwellers are lapping it up.

"People do want to have pets and in tiny flats, you can't," said cafe owner Lauren Pears, who opened Lady Dinah's Cat Emporium last month in an area east of the city's financial district.

"There's not many places in London you can just curl up with a book and chill out with a cat or two on your lap," she said Friday. "I think that's what our success is down to."

Cat cafes first took off 10 years ago in Japanese cities, where many people live alone in cramped high-rise apartment blocks that don't allow pets.

Making feline friends became popular therapy for lonely or anxious workers.

"I can see how this would be good for someone lacking company," said customer Sara Lewis, as she stroked a cat sitting on her lap.

"It's the best idea ever."

The cozy English tea room, named after Alice's cat in "Alice in Wonderland," charges customers 5 pounds (R88) for two hours of kitty company.

Coffee and afternoon tea - sandwiches, cakes and scones - are on the menu at an additional cost.

Lady Dinah's opened March 1, and is fully booked until the end of June.

Pears raised more than 109,000 pounds (R1.9 million) through a crowd-funding campaign to get the cafe up and running.

Despite more than a year of planning permission delays and figuring out how to maintain health and safety standards, she says the hard work has been worth it.

The 11 resident kitties were donated by people leaving the country who could no longer look after them.

Kitty welfare is paramount: the cats get regular breaks away from people, and staff have been trained by animal behaviorists to care for them.

Lisa Vann brought her 8-year old daughter, who has learning difficulties, to Lady Dinah's for a playdate. "She's delighted to be here," she said.

The animal cafe craze shows no signs of slowing, with establishments now open in London, Vienna and Paris.

A dog cafe, House of Hounds, is scheduled to open in London later this year.

And American animal-lovers won't be missing out for much longer.

Two cat cafes are due to open in the San Francisco Bay area by the end of 2014.
Kate Winslet 'haunted' by 'Titanic' nude scene.
 
 
The Oscar-winning actress stripped down for an intimate moment in the 1997 blockbuster, during which her co-star and friend Leonardo DiCaprio's character, Jack Dawson, draws a picture of her character Rose DeWitt Bukater's naked body.

She admits she finds some parts of the movie "very uncomfortable" to watch and refuses to sign photographs or recreations of the original drawing.

The 38-year-old beauty told Yahoo! Movies: "I don't sign that [picture]. It feels very uncomfortable. Why would you do that? People ask me to sign that [picture] a lot.

"There's a photo of it as well that someone has lifted from a still of the film, and that photo gets passed around too. I'm like 'No! I didn't mean for it to be a photograph that I would end up seeing still 17 years later."

The actress, who has a four-month-old son, Bear, with her husband Ned Rocknroll and children Mia, 13, and Joe, 10, from previous relationships, added: "It's still haunting me. It's quite funny really."

The Divergent star recently admitted she often "vomits" before shooting challenging scenes.

She said: "I think you get really good at mind-fucking yourself, to be honest. Acting is bloody scary. I still have moments when I think, 'I can't do this - everybody thinks I'm absolutely shit.'

“There are scenes I absolutely dread - there was a scene in Labor Day; the whole courtroom sequence in The Reader. I often throw up, which I'm a bit embarrassed about. It's the adrenaline."
12 Kinds Of People That Always Seem To Ruin Your Entire Trip On Public Transportation
 
Every day, millions of us across the world subject ourselves to the uncomfortable reality of public transportation.

Regardless of why you’re on board, you’re bound to come across at least one of the following passengers or pests, as they’re more commonly known.

Here is a list of ways that passengers on public transportation can truly piss you off. To prevent becoming the victim of well-deserved disapproving dirty looks, avoid them.
 
1. The Shouter

Universally loathed, there is always someone on board informing you of every sordid detail of his or her dull life.

As lovely as your date to the best taco joint around may seem, the entire bus does not need to know about it. (And we sure as hell don’t need the added info of the romantic romp that followed).

Is it so much to ask to be able to sit in peace and for you to spare me the unnecessary details of your sex life?
 
2. The Slurper/Snacker

This person will be sucking on a straw or rustling a crisp packet — the sound of such actions makes your jaw lock in frustration.

He or she crunches every last bite, slurps up every last sip of smoothie and sucks every finger clean of whatever he or she was snacking on. Did I mention that this will happen directly in your eardrum?
 
3. The Sweater

I know the feeling of being stuck on a crowded, clammy, claustrophobic carriage with a bunch of strangers in ungodly heat — I do not judge a little perspiration.

However, the shelves of supermarkets are stacked with a variety of branded deodorant these days. There is no excuse for bad BO! Whoops, forgot to apply it post shower this morning?

Well, I sure as hell didn’t sign up to being submerged into your sweaty pit when I stepped onto the bus.

There’s a thing called a convenience store located on most street corners; purchase an antiperspirant to save yourself, my nostrils and the shame of your stench. That, or walk because the breezy air might freshen up your foul odor.
 
4. The Couple

You and your better half may have only just started dating, but there is no need for over-the-top PDA — holding hands will suffice. Remove your tongue from his or her tonsils, separate yourselves for 10 minutes and quit with the cute cooing.

Reserve that for behind closed doors or beneath the bed sheets. I’m just trying to concentrate on getting from point A to point B.
 
5. The Drunk

Shrieks from irritating, intoxicated teenage girls, whose piss-infused pants leave residue on the seat for the next person to enjoy… Singing sports fans, who had a few too many and projectile vomit everywhere… Yum.
 
6. Music

Who wants to sit next to the distinct sound of drum and bass at 7 am?! The fact I’m a foot away from you but could sing along with the song blasting in your ears highlights the fact that you should TURN IT DOWN.

And I won’t even comment on the head banging, foot tapping or accidental outbreak of song that accompanies this annoying practice.
 
7. The General Weirdos

When dealing with the greater public, you’re bound to stumble across the occasional oddball. From those whose heavy breathing audible from rows away, to the nose-pickers, this person has a range of attributes that are annoying and sometimes, scary. To the pervert peering over the top of that paper he’s pretending to read — quit staring at me.
 
8. The Younger Passengers

If your journey commences in the early morning, chances are, school children will accompany you on your commute.

As you hear about the latest One Direction sighting and gossip about the girl who sprouted underarm hair before anyone else, you wonder where all the yellow buses are.
 
9. The Selfish Seat Snatcher

Sorry, did you pay for an extra ticket for your feet or bag that are occupying a SPARE seat? No, I didn’t think so.
 
10. The Stander

I know you can’t always help it, as the bus heaves and you have to stand. But standing still isn’t difficult — bend your knees a little and suck in your core so you stop smacking into me as well as aiding your balance. Happy days for us both!
 
11. The Cyber Freaks

Nails clicking on keyboards, fast action fingers pounding poor iPads and phones… Technology-obsessed individuals surround us and yes, it probably is important to complete the latest level of Candy Crush, but do you really have to do it here? With the volume on full bast?

It’s 9 pm, I have a two hour commute home and want some well-deserved shut eye. I don’t need the glare from your gadget keeping me awake.
 
12. The Egotists

I see you, sitting there, staring at your reflection in your mini mirror. I also do not need your elbow in my eye as you attempt to put on mascara or be covered in a cloud of your bronzer.

You have a bathroom back home for this and if you’re running late, use the ones at work. Everyone commuting at this hour is concerned about their own journey and they won’t notice a pimple you forgot to cover up.
10 Signs You Have A Serious Shopping Problem (And Secretly Love It)
 
 
1. You sacrifice meals to buy clothing
 
   Why eat breakfast when you need a new leather jacket? Exactly. Also, if you sacrifice a meal for clothes, won’t       you look better in the clothes, anyway? Seems like a win-win situation to me.
 
2. You are a member of Gilt, Rue La La and ideeli but you never actually buy anything from them
 
   Shopping on these websites is basically the equivalent of window shopping, since you know you’re never going to    actually buy anything.
     
   When you make your purchases for full retail price elsewhere, you can at least tell yourself you looked for a          bargain.
 
3. You play credit card roulette with yourself
 
   You think by splitting your purchases across a variety of cards, you are spending less money. In reality, all you       are doing is paying more bills and spending the exact same amount of money.
 
4. Your family asks, “Are you budgeting?” on a constant basis
 
   Your family is well aware of your shopping problem, and as a result, feels the need to constantly check up on you.

   They know you’d sacrifice weekly groceries for a new pair of jeans so their concerns are more than valid. They       try to compromise with you with the “spend half, save half” mentality regarding your paychecks.
 
5. You think Seamless is the best form of online shopping there is
 
   This is the only form of delivery that appears at your door within an hour of placing the order. If only Nasty Gal       could do the same, our lives would be that much better.
 
6. You have no qualms about paying $15.95 for next-day shipping for a weekend outfit
 
   If you know you have absolutely nothing to wear for the upcoming weekend, you’ll be sacrificing $15 to get new       items delivered to your doorstep ASAP.
   You don’t care that you could use that money for dinner; you need a new shirt and you need it now.
 
 
7. When you are sad there is nothing a new outfit or pair of shoes can’t cure
 
   They don’t call it retail therapy for nothing! Shopping may make you feel better temporarily, but hey, it’s better       than nothing, right? Money may not be able to buy happiness, but I’d rather cry while wearing a pair of Christian    Louboutins.
 
8. Shopping is your favorite form of cardio
 
   Whoever said shopping isn’t exercise has never entered a mall or fitting room. Walking the entire span of a mall       is like five miles, right? Maybe it’s more like two, but I’ll keep telling myself it’s five.
   Also, doesn’t trying on a ton of outfits count as some form of cardio? That sh*t is tiring, especially under those       burning hot lights.
 
9. You either check your bank account daily or are too scared to ever check it.
 
   There are people who meticulously check their bank accounts when indulging in shopping sprees, and then there    are those who spend blindly, hoping and praying they don’t overdraft. Either way, you’re a shopaholic by    anyone’s standards. 
 
10. Online shopping gives you another reason to live for three to five business days
 
   You’re addicted to retail; you can’t drag yourself away from a good sale or a good department store.
   Your family is concerned your addictive traits will cross over into other aspects of your life and fear for your       sanity (more like they fear they are going to have to bail you out of credit card debt).
 
 
 
 
5 reasons Gwyneth and Chris may have decided to ''consciously uncouple''
 
 
Gwyneth Paltrow and her hubby of ten years decided to "consciously uncouple" on Tuesday.

Which means break up, if you were wondering.

Shakespeare in Love star Gwyneth, 41, and Coldplay frontman Chris made the announcement in a joint statement posted to Gwen's Goop website.

It wasn't long before rumours of infidelity began to surface.

Gwyn was linked to entertainment lawyer Kevin Yorn and Elle Macpherson's husband Jeff Soffer.

Both allegations she has furiously denied.

So we decided to try and work out the real reason behind their split.

And we've whittled it down to five.

1. They were from different places


He was a British musician, she was a Hollywood actress - there were always going to be differences.

Gwyn struggled with some of his quirky ways. She once said:

"I definitely have to coax things out of him when we talk. You know, he’s British, so it’s a different lexicon totally."

Well, it's not totally different, is it Gwyn?

2. She was too New Age for him


She called their daughter Apple (either after the fruit or the brand, we're not sure) - We highly doubt that was Chris' choice.

3. He wasn't cool enough for her

The Coldplay frontman once said: "I've never been cool and I don't really care about being cool. It's just an awful lot of time and hair gel wasted."

He also admitted to "drooling all over the place."

Nice

But we'd say Gwyn's a pretty cool woman. She stared in Iron Man 3 and did her own stunts at 40. Nuff said?

4. She made too many rules

Gwyn said she'd rather die than give her kids a Cup a Soup, and she'd rather smoke crack than eat cheese from a tin.

It's all a bit OTT, and self-indulgent.

5. They couldn't compete with Jay and Bey


They were big fans of name-dropping their celeb BFFs.

Maybe they realised they would never obtain their level of happiness, so they just gave up.
The poorest president in the world
 
A former guerrilla fighter and a member of the Broad Front coalition of left-wing parties, Mujica was Minister of Livestock, Agriculture, and Fisheries from 2005 to 2008 and a Senator afterwards. As the candidate of the Broad Front, he won the 2009 presidential election and took office as President on 1 March 2010.

He has been described as "the world's 'poorest' president", due to his austere lifestyle and his donation of around 90 percent of his $12,000 (£7,500) monthly salary to charities that benefit poor people and small entrepreneurs.
 
 
He has turned down the offer to live a life of luxury in a state owned house and instead, lives his life in his ramshackle farm close to the capital city.
 
 
 
This is the car he drives. Classic.
 
 
He has no bank account. When declaring his wealth, Mujica stated that his most valuable possession is his aged Volkswagen Beetle.
 
8 Ancient Beliefs Now Backed By Modern Science
Here are eight ancient beliefs and practices that have been confirmed by modern science.

Helping others can make you healthier.
 
 
 
In their never-ending search for the best way to live, Greek philosophers argued over the relative benefits of hedonic and eudaimonic happiness. Hedonic well-being sees happiness as a factor of increased pleasure and decreased pain, while eudaimonic ("human flourishing") happiness has more to do with having a larger purpose or meaning in life. A recent study from University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill psychologist Barbara Fredrickson may reveal which form of happiness is more beneficial for health and well-being.

The study, which was published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences last year, found that while both types of happiness can make you feel good, the latter could promote physical health and longevity as well. Using phone interviews, questionnaires and blood samples, the study explored how the two forms of happiness affected individuals on a genetic level. Participants with more hedonic and less eudaimonic well-being were found to have a lower production of virus-attacking antibodies, while those with more eudaimonic well-being experienced an increase in antibody production.

Acupuncture can restore balance to your body.

The traditional Chinese medicine technique is believed to address imbalances in a person’s qi (pronounced chi), the circulating energy within every living thing. Whether or not you believe in the existence of this energy flow, a new study published in Archives of Internal Medicine found that the age-old practice may be an effective way to relieve migraines, arthritis and other chronic pains.

Analyzing previous research data from approximately 18,000 subjects, researchers found that acupuncture was more effective than sham acupuncture and standard western care when treating various types of pain, including migraines and chronic back pain.

We need the support of a community in order to thrive.
 
 
 
Traditional Buddhist teachings suggest that community is a key component in any happy, fulfilled life. A 2010 study conducted by Brigham Young University and University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill researchers confirmed this belief, concluding that a healthy social life promotes longevity.

In analyzing the 148 studies -- involving more than 300,000 individual participants -- available on the subject, the researchers discovered that those with stronger social relationships maintained a 50 percent increased likelihood of survival. The effect of social relationships on mortality risk is even greater than the effect of exercise or obesity.

Tai chi can help alleviate a variety of health conditions.

This ancient Chinese martial art is based on the belief that achieving balance with one’s mind and body creates an overall sense of peace and harmony, naturally inspiring a long life. A report in the May 2009 issue of Harvard Women’s Health Watch summarized several studies confirming that this “moving meditation” practice can help prevent and treat many age-related health problems alongside standard treatment in older adults. A number of studies in the past decade have found tai chi to be helpful for those suffering from arthritis, low bone density and heart disease.

Meditation can help you reduce stress and discover inner peace.
 
 
 
Stemming from ancient Eastern origins, the practice of meditation is believed to help still the mind and reach a heightened level of awareness, improving health and well-being as a byproduct. Science is now proving the health benefits of meditation. The latest study from a team of Harvard Medical School scientists reveals how this mind-body practice can affect genes that control stress levels and immune function.

Harvard psychiatrist John Denniger and his team used neuro-imaging and genomics technology to measure potential physiological changes in each subject more accurately. After observing the high-stress individuals as they followed the study’s prescribed yoga and meditation practices, the team noticed an improved mitochondrial energy production, utilization and resiliency, which help to reduce the stress linked to health conditions like hypertension and infertility.

Compassion is the key to a meaningful life.

Tibetan Buddhist tradition includes a practice called metta, or loving-kindness. A 2012 study from Emory University found that compassion meditation based on this Tibetan model can effectively boost one’s ability to empathize with others by way of reading their facial expressions.

Another loving-kindness meditation study from 2011 found that, over time, this practice increased participants' positive emotions that allowed them to find a deeper sense of mindfulness, their purpose in life, the network of support surrounding them, and their health. These components helped increase their overall life satisfaction.

Accepting what you can’t change is key to reducing suffering.
 
 
 
According to Buddhist teachings, one must accept the things they cannot change in order to reduce suffering. Now, scientists have found that this belief rings true, especially for older adults who are working through difficult life changes.

Researchers from Deakin University in Australia found that facing the realities of living with assistance and losing a degree of independence helps seniors live longer and feel far happier. Their study, which was published in the Journal of Happiness Studies last year, compared feelings of life satisfaction and perceived control of older adults living with assistance and those living in the community. Their analysis revealed that the ability to accept the inevitable (as well as maintain low-level control) in an assisted living setting was a significant predictor of life satisfaction. The researchers concluded, "In order to protect the well-being of older individuals, adaptation involves both a sense of control and the active acceptance of what cannot be changed."

All you need is love.

If there is one thing that a variety of ancient wisdom traditions can agree on, it’s the value of love in maintaining a happy, meaningful life. And a group of Harvard researchers, on a mission to uncover the true roots of life fulfillment, conducted a 75-year study that reached the same conclusion.

The Harvard Grant Study, led by psychiatrist George Vaillant, followed the life trajectories of 268 male students in order to answer life’s universal questions of growth, development, value and purpose. Vaillant considers the most meaningful finding of the study to be that a happy life revolves around loving relationships. He explained that there are two pillars of happiness: "One is love. The other is finding a way of coping with life that does not push love away."
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